#1. Provide Consistency & Structure
Try not to over explain. Teach the child to "do it because I said so." Don't use logic or reasoning to explain why the child needs to clean up his room before he can go out. The child probably perseverates about the extreme injustice of being required to clean up his room. Trying to reason and discussing it with the child will just make things worse. If you get into an argument with these children, they will become convinced that they are right. You have to comprehend that most kids with ADD/ADHD love to argue - they find it stimulating. Arguments go on and on, ad nauseam, until they wear you down. Avoid this siteation - they will view it as a sign of weakness and will persist longer the next time.

#2. Establish Clear Standards & Rules
Establish black and white standards about right and wrong. Use these standards consistently. Don't get into shades of gray, when you are raising children. You can't say "No" one day, then "Yes" the next day. If you act in such a way, you will teach them to persist until you give up or give in. Parents often allow children with ADHD to misbehave and get away with bad behavior because they believe they cannot control their behavior. This is not true!

#3. Have High Expectations
We often lower our expectations because a child has ADHD. If parents do not expect them to control their behavior and their impulses, they won't. Low expectations result in to low performance. Parents have to work harder and have to make the kids work harder because of their ADHD. You have to teach them to work hard. It will be good to help them develop strategies to use in dealing with the negative characteristics of ADHD. If you do this, the child with ADD/ADHD can do better on a task or mission than a child who doesn't have ADHD - because your expectations are high.

#4. Teach Your Child to Behave
You have to reward positive behavior, use negative consequences for negative behavior, be consistent, be alert, use tough love, and have high expectations for these children.